Campervan Boy
- dating
As a newbie in the online dating world I made a number of rookie mistakes. In my profile, I had a looong description of myself, my likes and dislikes, and my expectations. Turns out the more I shortenend it the more messages I got. Another thing only beginners (and very polite people) do is respond to any message that’s more substantial than “Hi :)”, “What’s up?”, or “U look gorgeous ;)”. I did that. And if people were nice enough in their messages I would go on a date with them even when their profile (photos and self-description) didn’t appeal to me. Unless they were in India or 22 years old.
Therefore, I was very relaxed on most first dates. I had no expectations and nothing to lose.
But this was different on my very first date that came out of online dating. This boy was promising. A musician with a proper job, well-read, well-traveled, funny, he liked the outdoors and a simple life. I was quite keen. His picture was a bit blurry though, and you never know if you find someone physically attractive until you meet them.
We had exchanged quite a few messages and agreed to meet in a pub. I was early. I was very, very nervous. This was the second scariest thing I had ever done in my life. The scariest thing was stand-up comedy (click).
When he came in I recognised him right away because he was nervous as well. The date went ok - we talked, there were no awkward silences, and I liked what I saw.
We met again a few times every once in a while - but he didn’t seem too keen and after a while I had written him off. But then after a few months we ended up going on a trip in his campervan and there’s little more romantic than a trip to the hills in a campervan. A few more trips followed, most notably the one to Argyll (click) - waking up in a campervan on a remote spot on the coast with a view over the island Jura, sunrise, coffee and a hug, one of my favourite moments in 2014. But then it slowly died - he got in touch less and less often, and I started to pine for the campervan and all the trips I still wanted to do, but the boy himself and I didn’t really have much to say to each other. So no harm done!
The best thing about Campervan Boy was not the campervan, although that’s a close call! No, I liked that he was really cheeky.
Number of dates had: 10+. Overall experience 7/10.
Therefore, I was very relaxed on most first dates. I had no expectations and nothing to lose.
But this was different on my very first date that came out of online dating. This boy was promising. A musician with a proper job, well-read, well-traveled, funny, he liked the outdoors and a simple life. I was quite keen. His picture was a bit blurry though, and you never know if you find someone physically attractive until you meet them.
We had exchanged quite a few messages and agreed to meet in a pub. I was early. I was very, very nervous. This was the second scariest thing I had ever done in my life. The scariest thing was stand-up comedy (click).
When he came in I recognised him right away because he was nervous as well. The date went ok - we talked, there were no awkward silences, and I liked what I saw.
We met again a few times every once in a while - but he didn’t seem too keen and after a while I had written him off. But then after a few months we ended up going on a trip in his campervan and there’s little more romantic than a trip to the hills in a campervan. A few more trips followed, most notably the one to Argyll (click) - waking up in a campervan on a remote spot on the coast with a view over the island Jura, sunrise, coffee and a hug, one of my favourite moments in 2014. But then it slowly died - he got in touch less and less often, and I started to pine for the campervan and all the trips I still wanted to do, but the boy himself and I didn’t really have much to say to each other. So no harm done!
The best thing about Campervan Boy was not the campervan, although that’s a close call! No, I liked that he was really cheeky.
Number of dates had: 10+. Overall experience 7/10.